rules
I'm having a bad day.
I don't like having frustrating conversations. and yet recent conversations seem to have been very frustrating. This forces me to post an update. I'll start with some simple rules:
- I'm not going to want to help you if your an asshole to me
- or if you're rude about me
- or if you're rude about my friends
Now we move to the big one. It is very important that you understand perception.
Dictionary.com says:
per·cep·tion ( P ) (pr-spshn)n. The process, act, or faculty of perceiving. The effect or product of perceiving. Recognition and interpretation of sensory stimuli based chiefly on memory. The neurological processes by which such recognition and interpretation are effected. Insight, intuition, or knowledge gained by perceiving. The capacity for such insight.
Don't believe me? look it up yourself
Now a persons perception is most likely to be their reality, so I understand them “fighting their corner” when they think something. However, unless they have some reality warping power that can make your own perception reality for everyone else, then I'm afraid it's always just going to be your take buddy. It might not be mine. In fact, it's not going to be mine because I'm fucking weird. Let me insert some personal examples here:
- If you chuck someone… it's not “mutual”.
- Unless you're Natwest bank, I don't owe you anything. In a real physical monetary sense, and in an emotional/spiritual/whatever sense.
- That's anything at all.
- It's not a requirement that I approve of anything you do.
- I am entitled to opinions that aren't yours.
- I'm unlikely to think I'm a bastard. Sorry about that.
- A few Christmases doesn't warrant “giving something up” for a relationship.
- No it doesn't.
- No, really. I'm not kidding. You'd be better trying something else, like “I had to check that crack addiction I never had in for you, you bastard!”.
I'm going to laugh at “You MADE me travel to an island paradise for what is pretty much a free holiday or two over Christmas a few times”. - I'll laugh about it for a while.
- Probably the rest of my life.
- If I didn't say it, then I didn't say it.
- If you think I thought it, but didn't say it… then I'll ignore you if you have a go at me about it. Sorry.
- When I want to live in one place, and you in another, you offering to move 20 minutes from where you were, when mine is still 1hour + away, is not a compromise.
- No. It isn't.
- I said no. Sorry, I'm not that interested in what you friends/family/dog think.
- This is very, very important: If I said I didn't cheat. I didn't cheat. I'd tell you at this stage.
- By never, ever. I mean never, ever.
- This does mean you can't use it as justification for anything. Sorry.
- There is always the possibility that I might change my mind about something. Has been known to happen.
- If it does happen, then I am allowed to do it. I looked it up, it's right there in the rules.
Gee. I wonder who that's written to?
You know what though? I feel better. I might go and have a cigarette.